Supporting Couples Through Connection, Communication & Intimacy
Whether you’re navigating the complexities of modern relationships, working through challenges in the bedroom, or seeking to deepen your connection, I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to explore what matters most to you both.
What I Can Help With:
Conscious Communication
Many relationship struggles stem from patterns of communication that no longer serve us. I work with couples to develop:
- Communication skills that foster direct, compassionate dialogue honoring both partners’ needs
- Boundary-setting skills that create safety and respect
- Conflict resolution tools that move beyond blame and defensiveness
- Active listening practices that foster genuine understanding
Learning to communicate consciously transforms not just your arguments, but your entire relationship dynamic.
Sexual Connection & Intimacy
Sex is often where our deepest vulnerabilities and desires meet. I provide a shame-free environment to explore:
- Low sex drive or libido concerns - understanding the physical, emotional, and relational factors
- Mismatched desires - finding ways to honor both partners’ needs without resentment
- Sexual communication - learning to express desires, boundaries, and consent explicitly
- Intimacy beyond sex - rebuilding connection when physical intimacy feels challenging
My approach integrates integrative therapy with an understanding of how trauma, stress, and life circumstances impact our sexual selves.
Infidelity & Betrayal
Infidelity can shatter trust, but it doesn’t have to mean the end.
I work with couples to:
- Process the pain and trauma of betrayal in a contained, safe space
- Understand what led to the infidelity - not to excuse it, but to heal the underlying wounds
- Rebuild trust through accountability, transparency, and consistent action
- Decide whether to stay or leave with clarity and self-compassion
Healing from infidelity is possible, but it requires both partners to show up with honesty and courage.
Kink & Conscious Sexuality
For couples exploring or already practicing kink and BDSM, I offer informed, experienced support:
- Consent practices
- Power dynamics and how they show up in and out of the bedroom
- Safety, boundaries, and aftercare
- Integrating kink into your relationship in ways that feel authentic and sustainable
Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)
Non-monogamous relationships require exceptional communication, boundary-setting, and self-awareness. I support couples navigating:
- Opening up a previously monogamous relationship
- Jealousy, insecurity, and attachment patterns in ENM contexts
- Agreements, boundaries, and relationship structures (hierarchical, non-hierarchical, solo poly, etc.)
- Communication with multiple partners
- When ENM isn’t working - discerning whether to continue or transition
Working with the Queer Community
I offer relationship therapy that understands the unique landscape of LGBTQ+ relationships.
I work with:
- Same-sex and same-gender couples navigating relationship challenges
- Trans and non-binary individuals and their partners - understanding how gender identity and transition impact relationships
- Queer relationship structures that don’t fit heteronormative molds
- Coming out and identity exploration within existing relationships
- Minority stress and its impact on relationships - the toll of navigating a heteronormative world
- Chosen family dynamics and how they intersect with romantic partnerships
- Internalized homophobia, biphobia, or transphobia and how it shows up in intimacy
My Approach
I bring together psychotherapy, conscious communication, attachment theory, sex positivity, and trauma-informed practice to create a holistic approach to relationship work.
What makes my work different:
- No judgment - I’ve worked through my own relationship challenges and understand how complex love and desire can be. No topic is too taboo or off-limits.
- Practical tools - You’ll leave sessions with concrete practices, not just insights.
- Somatic awareness - We explore how your body holds relationship patterns and stress.
- Intersectional understanding - I honor diverse relationship structures, sexual orientations, and gender identities.
Who This Is For
Relationship therapy with me is ideal if you:
- Value intentional, conscious relating and want to deepen your skills
- Are willing to look at your own patterns, not just your partner’s
- Want a therapist who understands alternative relationship structures and sexuality
- Are seeking practical tools alongside emotional processing
- Appreciate a direct, compassionate communication style.
How We Work Together
Initial Consultation: We’ll discuss your relationship challenges, goals, and whether we’re a good fit.
Session Structure: Sessions are typically 90 minutes, allowing time to go deep without feeling rushed.
Between Sessions: I provide tools for you to practice with your partner with optional WhatsApp support between sessions if required.
Hayes Holistic Health